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October 3, 2016
So I've basically been gambling since I was 18 I'm 27 now, when I broke up with my girlfriend when I was 22 I started gambling a lot more as I had a lot of free time.
Now I'm at the point where I'm 27 I have no savings what so ever, and each week I get paid I pay my bills and what I need too and then go to the club 30 mins after getting paid take out everything and gamble it within 2 hours most weeks.
So each week I'm leaving myself for the rest of the week with no money at all.. now I have large bills I need to pay, and dentist I'm just afraid.. in my head I'm like I'll just save for a few weeks and not gamble and save the money but will I? I honestly don't have many friends and the ones I do all gamble.. so even just going to the club with them it's extremely hard to not gamble...
Also I actually work in a club so I'm not really wanting to self exclude and have everyone at my work no that I have a gambling problem and be talked about...
I just get bored on my days off and don't really have many hobbies specially anything I can do at 9pm at night when I get paid..
Any ideas? Not keen on ringing up just yet happy to just chat online for now...
Ps anyone else in a similar situation?
February 13, 2014
thanks for your post - it sounds like you've reached a point with your gambling where you are determined to make a change, but need a bit of guidance on where to go from here?
It also sounds like you've got heaps of insight into some of the things contributing to your gambling - eg. that you started after a relationship breakup and that working in a club and not having hobbies probably contributes to the problem.
It would be great to hear from other forum users about what has worked for them in this situation - so others, feel free to comment below;)
Moshniki, I'd also recommend you check out the Counsellor Sam blog as there are some good articles about exactly what you're going through and might be helpful if you aren't quite ready for face to face counselling yet, but are doing a lot of preparation for change.
Just briefly, it can also help to look at what you used to do for recreation before gambling became so much of a problem - what kinds of things used to give you interest and used to occupy your time. Things like social sports and learning can be a great way to spend that time and often we find the company of others can keep our minds away from going to the club.
Another thing to remember is that you need to be aware of the potential benefits of stopping gambling - so it could help to think about what else you might want to spend your $$ on - for example, travelling or even something like the dentist, as you mentioned. Often people find that extra bit of motivation when they think of how much stress they would save themselves if money were not such an issue.
Either way, it sounds like you are on the right track in terms of reaching out - please let me know what you think about the blog and if you find it useful. I can really hear that you are tired of spending all your $$ gambling, and that is a big thing - so well done for posting:)
all the best,
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