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New member husband gambles and im feeling very low and frustrated
March 30, 2019
12:31 am
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Hi so my husband and i have been together for 20 years and there has been gambling from day 1. He also suffers from depression possibly bipolar and the depression and gambling and fact that he can detach and not worry about conequences of his actions or how much stress and hurt he is putting me and his kids through is wearing me down. I feel so deflated and unimportant. I feel he is choosing gambling over me but at the same time i acknowledge he is unwell and has an addiction but so tired of giving and giving and supporting and constantly being let down and overlooked. Its all about him and im the one who has to try and be strong and hold it together yet i feel like im broken. Also he is suicidal so in real predicament still love him and know hes a good guy deep down and has a big heart but feel he doesnt appreciate me and uses me and if i left he may harm himself. Sick of having drama every week and having all occasions ruined or being constantly on edge or anxious at every occasion and just daily in general. Says he wants to get help we see a psychologist but he still keeps gambling and breaking my trust. Any advice appreciated.

April 5, 2019
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Hi Kelser81,
Good to hear from you and I'm sorry to hear that you are going through a difficult time - it sounds like there are a lot of challenges with your husband's gambling and, while he is wanting to get help, you are not seeing a lot of change and there are a lot of issues with his behaviour.
It does sound like there is some immediate support needed - I would like you to call Gambling Helpline on 1800 858 858 to speak to a counsellor about some options for yourself and your husband - they can offer free counselling and support (also financial counselling) for the both of you, which can really help with some of those issues in the relationship.
Please let me know if you have any questions for me about how this works.
all the best,
Counsellor Sam

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