Hi everyone, I’ve read so many stories on here that i can really relate to and would like to share this all of you. My story is similar to most. I was introduced to the tab by a friend for the first time and placed a $2 win bet on the dogs which i won. From there, my gambling problem just got worse and spiralled out of control. I started betting on the horses, harness etc and my bets got larger $100-$1000. I would go from atm to tab and place my bets. It became a sickening routine. In 2015, i finally told my wife the truth about my gambling habits and she helped me pay off my loans and credit cards. I have since payed her back most of the money…close to 50k. She threatened to leave if i ever gambled again so i had to make a promise not to ever gamble again. I have been to counselling during that time and it’s helped me a lot. The problem is, i have since relapsed and this time i have got myself into credit card debt of 50k. I have no idea how i going to pay off my credit cards which i have maxed out. Absolutely sick of myself. My wife doesnt know about my relapse and i am afraid to tell her for fear of losing her and my daughter. I do not wosh this upon anyone. The good news is i have gone through the last 3 weeks without gambling and what i want to share with everyone is the thought process that has gone through in my head during this time which has made me rethink my gambling in a coherent way. I have excluded myself from certain betting sites but i still find a way to bet on other sites. In the past month or so, I have been thinking about my family, more specifically my daughter who i love so much. Thinking about all the money that i’ve spent over the years…that sickening feeling. I think when you can tell yourself theres so much more to life than just gambling. Take a step back and think about the love ones whom you are destroying, it really gives new meaning and purpose to stop an addiction like gambling. I wake up every morning now and thank god (even though i am not a religious person) for my beautiful wife and daughter. Even though i have to find a way to pay back my 50k debt, i am grateful that i have somehow stopped gambling the last few weeks… I am streased out of my brain trying to figure out a way to pay my debts but glad that i have stopped the urge to gamble. I sincerely hope this helps someone out there! The last few years of my life have been a struggle but i look forward to the years ahead with renewed hope. Fingers crossed, the first battle has been won for me. I wish everyone fighting this addiction the best of luck! Another problem gambler
Thank you for sharing your story with us. It takes a lot of strength and courage to reach out and tell your story with the hope that it helps others. It sounds like you have been touched by many of the stories shared on here, and I’m sure someone in turn will be reached by reading your story. It sounds like you’ve had a long struggle with gambling and it has had absolutely devastating financial consequences and has significantly affected your loved ones. You should be incredibly proud of yourself for the period that you were able to stop gambling, and should be proud that you’ve been gambling free for the last 3 weeks. It is a normal experience to have relapses. It is really difficult to give up and most people find that they slip up a few times along the way. It isn’t about the number of times that you’ve slipped up, but more about what you learn from it and what strategies you put in place. I can hear how important your family is to you and how much of a motivator they are for you quit. It sounds like in the past you’ve attended counselling, which was helpful for you – I’m wondering if this is something you might be able to try again? Another option perhaps to consider is self-exclusion. Self exclusion allows you to ban yourself from gambling at a number of TAB venues. You also mentioned that you’ve accumulated a large debt as a result of the gambling – perhaps speaking to a financial counsellor may be helpful.
If you were interested in pursuing counselling (therapeutic gambling counselling or financial counselling) or a self-exclusion then all you need to do is contact the Gambling Helpline on 1800 858 858. It is a 24 hour line.